What’s the healthiest expression of anger you’ve ever seen?
Bonus points if it didn’t devolve into petty tit for tat/bickering.
Also for anyone interested in diving further:
How did it allow you/the people involved to take care of their needs?
Did it allow both parties to do so or only one? Why?
Was forgiveness involved in resolving, reconciling, or embracing the underlying causes for anger?
Context: I think a lot of us lack good examples. People are often afraid to talk about it, and by the time we’re close to it, it’s definitely challenging to navigate. Most of the time people are even afraid to walk the line between acknowledging and declaring their own boundaries and proceeding to do something with the experience(s). Even Bruce Lee acknowledges that “Ultimately martial arts means, honestly expressing yourself. Now, it is very difficult to do.” And yet, it’s being done.
At this point, I ponder the line between trolling and anger. Not too long ago, this protest sign, quoting Edgar D. Mitchell crossed the news:
“You develop an instant global consciousness, a people orientation, an intense dissatisfaction with the state of the world, and a compulsion to do something about it. From out there on the moon, international politics look so petty. You want to grab a politician by the scruff of the neck and drag him a quarter of a million miles out and say, ‘Look at that, you son of a bitch.” ― Edgar D. Mitchell
The more I think about it, some of my favorite examples of righteous mischief or frustration might be an example of that. The quote I opened with from astronaut Edgar D. Mitchell came to mind because part of it was used by a group that created the first protest (protesting the current president) from outer space (see article from the Hill).
Thinking of a similar statement that always stood out to me:
“You get to the point where you evolve in your life where everything isn’t black and white, good and bad, and you try to do the right thing…You might not like that. You might be very cynical about that. Well, fuck it, I don’t care what you think. I’m trying to do the right thing. I’m tired of Republican-Democrat politics. They can take the job and shove it. I come from a blue-collar background. I’m trying to do the right thing, and that’s where I’m going with this.” – The Honorable State Senator Roy McDonald (speaking on his decision to vote for legalizing gay marriage. It takes a certain degree of gravitas for a statement of plain and profane words like that to work.)
A woman chooses to show up to work dressed up in Cosplay every day since her boss thinks her headscarf and any cultural cloths covering her hair are “unprofessional” even though the company had zero dress code. I know a few cosplayers and I think this is quality trolling.
The California man who drove in the high occupancy vehicle lane with papers for a business is another example. He was protesting the Citizens United supreme court ruling by carrying a filing cabinet of business papers in his car, and using the “corporations are people” argument to demonstrate how he legally is permitted to drive in the carpool lane (requires more than one “person”).
Huh, wow–so there we have it.
Some tools I’ve used, created, or adopted for anger–including a framework that’s normally used for intervening with bias (mostly racism/sexism) developed by Cook-Ross:
Creating parameters for signaling anger in ways that people might better understand what’s going on:
For anyone wondering what happened to the legal case concerning the man using a traffic ticket to challenge Citizen’s United this was the latest I could find from a very brief search: